I first met Jeremy when he still drove that shitty little Hyundai, I think it was silver. I remember walking through the parking lot with him at IMFlash many times and him saying funny stuff about that car, and that his dream car was a Volkswagen“Thing”.
Since learning about Jeremy’s death, I’ve tried to trace my memories of our time together over and over again to identify that first time we met. I’m not sure when that was or that it really matters. But what stands out as most important to me was that he let me know that he was a supportive ally of the LGBTQ community, and he was “out” about that at work. And the impact that had on me, I’d never felt that kind of support from someone at work before up to that point.
He was so thoughtful. He’d make eye contact when he was talking to you, and he was funny. So really…. the rest was herstory, our friendship blossomed quickly once we realized we had shared values and sense of humor.
He totally felt like a work wife to me. Any time we could connect over lunch, we would. But our connection grew beyond work. He was so clear and vocal about how much he loved, was crazy about and totally supported his life partner, Kalli, and his daughter Isadora. And it was such a pleasure being a witness to that joy.
Jeremy lived out loud and was nerdy about super cute things like mechanical keyboards, fancy pens, his acquired taste for bow ties and cool socks. I felt so comfortable to be my for-real self around Jeremy.
I have so many memories of Jeremy I keep sitting with,....that make me smile and make me miss the hell out of him.
I’ll carry my memories of him for the rest of my days. I’m so grateful to have known Jeremy, to have laughed with him many times, and to have talked about the real stuff together.
I hope to stay connected into the future Kalli & Isadora. I’d love to continue to honor Jeremy with both of you for many years to come.